There is a kabbalistic story about a righteous person who had many students. One day, one of the students came to this teacher and said, “I don’t think I can be here anymore. I have so many questions, so many things that I don’t understand. I simply can’t follow this path any longer. I want to give up.”
Calmly and simply, the kabbalist responded, “Did these questions come to you before or after you decided this wasn’t your path?”
The student thought for a moment and said, “You know…yes, you’re right. I got the questions after I decided. What about it?”
“Well,” the kabbalist replied, “it seems you don’t have questions. You have answers.”
Oftentimes, when we look at other people—our friends, our spouse, our siblings, even our acquaintances—we don’t have questions; we have answers. Armed with our preconceptions and judgments, we close the door of our heart to others instead of leaving it open for them to walk through.
Many times, we don’t step back so we can appreciate those around us.... Read More